Real trouble after church head had sex with wife's Niece

THE Matero local court was sent into cold feet upon learning how a church leader had sex with his wife’s niece who had visited from the village.
It was heard that the clergyman took advantage of the girl after his wife was hospitalised for a period of time.
Isaac Mulilo, 37, of Emmasdale, a leader in one of the churches in Lusaka, was forced to have sex with his wife’s niece, Mary, upon gazing at her underwear which she was drying where she used to sleep.
This was a case in which Agnes Mwanza, 28, a hair dresser of Luangwa Township sued her husband, Isaac Mulilo, 37, of Emmasdale for divorce.
Mwanza told senior court magistrate Pauline Newa that the two got married in 2010 and had one child. Dowry was partly paid.
She said there was never a time when the couple had peace in their marriage because Mulilo started beating her when their son was only three weeks old.
Mwanza told the court that her husband started having sex with her niece from the village the time she was hospitalised due to an ovary problem which developed in 2015.
“At around 04:00 hours I became suspicious because he woke up and followed my niece and later on he got a basin and went outside to wash himself and when I followed him, he said he had diarrhoea,” Mwanza said.
Mwanza said her husband had even reached the extent of not bathing from home and shunning eating, a matter she reported to the church bishop.
She said the problem escalated and the two started fighting and in the process she sustained a knee injury.
Mwanza said Mulilo had even saved her name in his phone as January 18 and saved another woman as girlfriend.
In defence, Mulilo said he still loved his wife but blamed her for being quick in taking action when she did not have any proper evidence.
He, however, denied making love to Mary in court stating that the reason he had earlier admitted was because he respected the girl’s uncle so much.
Passing judgment, magistrate Newa granted the couple divorce.
The magistrate ordered Mulilo to compensate Mwanza K7,000 with initial payment of K1,000 followed by monthly installments of K300.
She also told Mulilo to be paying Mwanza K300 for child maintenance and share the property between themselves.

A 30-Year-Old Virgin Man needs your Help!

Dear Readers,
I am 30-year-old male, born and brought up in Benue but lives in Lagos now. My problem is that I find it really hard to socialize and I can only carry on a good conversation with selected people. Also, I find it difficult to control my sexual desire since I am a virgin with no experience with girls whatsoever, not even a kiss. I feel like I have missed out on a lot of fun in life. And now, I have reached a point in life where most of my friends are married or have girlfriends.
Every day I feel like an idiot for not having a girlfriend. Is it normal for man to be a virgin, sexless with no girlfriends at 30 years of age. Will I ever get those days of fun back?Please Help

The Driver who slept his friends wife confessed that she forced him

According to reports, a taxi driver got more than he bargained for recently after he was caught smashing his friend’s wife near his house in Lusaka.

The man identified as Patrick usually drives his friend’s wife to work on a daily basis. He said he was forced to have s*x with her after she failed to pay him for service rendered. His words below:
“After taking her for work in the morning, she told me that she will give me money later in the afternoon after she comes back from work.
I agreed because that is the nature of our work. She later called me around 7.30pm to pick her up from Chilanga were she said she had traveled for work and I agreed.
After picking her up I drove to Lusaka were she resides and I demanded that she pay me my money I have worked for, instead she complained that she didn’t have money and told me to sleep with her.
I tried to insist to just give me my money, but she removed her underwear and squeezed me, it was at this stage I got carried away and slept with her just inside my car.”
The woman’s husband, out of anger, pounced on the driver who is his friend, beating him mercilessly.

Woman Identified as pastors wife caught pant down with another man

It’s another busted cheat scene in Lusaka,Kabwata area but this time it was really disappointing . A pastor caught his wife right in the act with their Garden boy cheating in his own house. He couldn’t take it that he went really gaga with the man that even the neighbors couldn’t separate them. But what goes up must surely come down.

After the neighbors finally got them separated, the husband (Pastor) was able to share his heartfelt sad grive; he told people at the scene that he worked so hard to keep his wife on check and also to look like other top women but all he got from her was pure disappointment and betrayal, cheating behind his back with their Garden boy.

But, there’s always a reason for any action. You won’t believe the ridiculous disgraceful reason that his cheating wife told people; she actually leaked there bedroom secrets. Instead of her to show full remorse for her stinking deeds, She said her husband doesn’t satisfy her in bed. ” My husband husband doesn’t care about me, all he cares about is his church affairs. I’m tired and I want divorce”

Sex before sport doesn't negatively impact performance

Over the course of the Rio Olympics, 450,000 condoms were distributed around the athlete's village. This may be surprising considering the common view that abstinence from sexual activity can boost athletic performance.

These long-standing views have now been challenged by a recent analysis of current scientific evidence, published in the open-access journal Frontiers in Physiology.

"Abstaining from sexual activity before athletic competition is a controversial topic in the world of sport;" said Laura Stefani, an Assistant Professor of Sports Medicine at the University of Florence, Italy, and lead author of this review;"We show no robust scientific evidence to indicate that sexual activity has a negative effect upon athletic results."

The authors sifted through hundreds of studies with the potential to provide evidence, however big or small, on the impact of sexual activity upon sport performance. After setting a number of criteria to filter out the most reliable of these studies, only nine were included in the review.

One of these found that the strength of female former athletes did not differ if they had sex the night before. Another actually observed a beneficial effect on marathon runners' performance. While these small handful of studies provided some clues about the real effects of sex on sport performance, Dr. Stefani and her colleagues were disappointed with the research on this subject to date.

"We clearly show that this topic has not been well investigated and only anecdotal stories have been reported;" explained Dr. Stefani; "In fact, unless it takes place less than two hours before, the evidence actually suggests sexual activity may have a beneficial effect on sports performance."

The review also revealed that males were more frequently investigated than females, with no comparison of effects across genders. In addition, it highlights that cultural differences in attitudes towards sexual activity may influence how much or how little impact it may have. Dr. Stefani emphasizes other factors that have been ignored.

"No particular importance has been laid on the psychological or physical effects of sexual activity on sports performance, or upon the different kinds of sports."

This is an important point, given each sport's different mental and physical challenges.

This review demonstrates the need for proper scientific investigation into the impact of sexual activity on sport performance, clarifying any ethical, gender and sport differences.

The authors conclude that because the current evidence debunks the long-held abstinence theories, athletes should not feel guilty when engaging in their usual sexual activity up to the day before competition.

Online social media use does not impair our ability to concentrate

Using online social media does not lead to long-term problems with our ability to concentrate, according to new research published in the International Journal Social Media and Interactive Learning Environments.

We are social animals, so it is really no surprise that billions of us now use online tools to communicate, educate and inform each other. The advent of social media and social networking has nevertheless been phenomenally rapid. "These networks have become an imprint of our everyday life and part of pop culture, revolutionizing the way people communicate and in the way organizations act, says Deborah Carstens of the Florida Institute of Technology."With the abundance of technological devices, an increasing number of users of all ages rely on technology and specifically social media."

There are, however, worries about the impact such tools have on our psyche and our ability to concentrate, for instance. Now research from Carstens' team and their colleagues at Barry University also in Florida, demonstrates that despite the often skittish and transient nature of online social interactions there is no difference to be seen in the attention span or "offline" sociability of occasional users and frequent users of online social media. These modern communication tools do not, it seems, interfere with our primal instincts, such as long-term attitudes, time appreciation, and concentration, in the way that many critics have suggested in recent years.

"Social media is not a fad as it continues to play an increasing role in the individuals' lives. Understanding how to utilize this social media epidemic to enhance learning, relationships and business knowledge is essential as individuals are spending an increasing amount of time on these networks," the researchers conclude.

Females react differently than males to social isolation

While male and female mice have similar responses to physical stress, research from the Hotchkiss Brain Institute at the University of Calgary, Canada, suggests females, not males, feel stressed when alone.

The findings, to be published in the journal, provide further proof that strategies for coping with stress are sex-specific. They also highlight the importance of a social network for females in particular and pave the way for future research into whether females befriend others as a coping mechanism during stressful situations.

"Many species, including humans, use social interaction to reduce the effects of stress. In fact, the lack of a social network may itself be stressful," says senior author Jaideep Bains, PhD, Professor of Physiology & Pharmacology at the University of Calgary, Cumming School of Medicine.

"Recent research suggests that young girls are more sensitive to social stress than boys. This could mean that social networks are more important for females in general, and that young females from different species, such as mice, may be more sensitive towards social isolation than males."

To test whether isolating individuals from their social group impacts on the brain in sex-specific ways, Bains and his team studied preadolescent mice that had been housed in same-sex groups after weaning. These mice were either left in their same-sex groups, housed in pairs, or were isolated altogether from their littermates for 16 to 18 hours. Following this period, the team examined the effects on the animals' brain cells that control the release of stress hormones.

"Isolating the female mice from their littermates for less than a day led to the release of a signalling chemical called corticosterone, which is produced in response to stressful situations and decreases the excitability of the brain cells," says medical student Laura Senst, lead author of the study. "This reaction was not evident in their male counterparts."

This led the team to believe that only young female mice, and not males, interpret social isolation as a type of stress. If this were true, it would mean that males should experience physical stress in a similar way to the isolated females through activities such as swimming.

After both sexes of mice experienced a 20-minute swim, the researchers indeed discovered that the activity elicited the same reaction in males as that seen in the females that had been isolated and also swam. This suggests both sexes have the same sensitivity towards physical stress.

"By showing that males and females react differently to some types of stress but not others, our study highlights the importance of considering carefully the sex of animals when investigating how stress affects the brain," says Research Associate Dinara Baimoukhametova, co-lead author of the paper.

"Our findings also raise the interesting question of whether social and environmental changes during the crucial preadolescent stage of development could have long-term consequences for how males and females respond to stressful events later in life."